The cheek! Right….? 😄
But hey, lets face it, there’s a real thing with mothers-in-law – a real ‘thing’, if you know what I mean 😁 Some Moms are just a lot more honest than others.
So, I stumbled across a story from an online publication and reading through I come across this invite. Much like the average good hearted human being, my mind is instantly made up: this is a mom-in-law from the other side of Eden!
The OED (Oxford English Definition) of Mother-in-Law: ‘A phrase appended to names of relationship, as father, mother, brother, sister, son, etc., to indicate that the relationship is not by nature, but in the eye of the Canon Law, with reference to the degrees of affinity within which marriage is prohibited. These forms can be traced back to the 14th century. Formerly -in-law was also used to designate those relationships which are now expressed by step-, e.g. son-in-law = step-son, father-in-law = step-father; this, though still locally or vulgarly current, is now generally considered a misuse…’
Technically: (english.stackexchange.com) It comes from Middle English modyr in lawe. The idea behind it is that your mother-in-law has the same rights and duties as your biological mother and is given these rights and duties by the legal pact of marriage.
So many questions arise, and so many assumptions and expecations are linked to the mother-in-law – by everyone else except her! By definition, it is absolutely right to expect conplete courtesy from the mother of the man you pledge your whole life to. But, by definition, she happens to hold all parental rights and can decide to sway that bat anyway she likes!
The greatest and gravest error we make is summarised in two deadly words: EXPECTATION & ASSUMPTION!
Quite honestly after reading this invitation and thinking through many, many examples of both solid and failed in-law relationships, I’m convinced we don’t open up this discussion openly and early enough. We don’t engage mothers to give them that opportunity to say how unhappy she is hee son is no longer hers to control. We walk into these relationships tense, polite and holding on for dear life hoping for the best.
The Doctor’s mom is one of few who actually have done it right – transparent and intentional. And of course unlike most young brides, Ms Cheap-Two-Bit T@#&$ walks into this one knowing exactly what lies ahead in that relationship! I would say that’s a win.
What are your thoughts?
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